Many times, we look at things from a superficial point of view. What we failed to see in the difficult and arduous road to truly achieving these goals is that no one prepares us for the years of sacrifice and misery that we may have to face on our way to success, just as no one prepares us for introspection and loneliness. Own work that must be done before we can enter into a happy and healthy relationship.
Being alone does not mean being alone. You will never feel lonely if you like the person you are alone with. You will never be happy with another person until you are happy with yourself. That’s right, you must first be happy with yourself.
We have become so dependent on external stimuli and approval that we have forgotten what it is like to build the most important relationship of all: the one we have with the person in the mirror.
We long for a relationship because we believe it will bring satisfaction or fulfillment to our lives. We believe that we will finally be happy when we are done with the man or woman we have been creating in our minds. We believe that being single means that you are not loved and that being in a relationship means that you are loved.
The truth is, there are many happy single people and many miserable people who ended up in the wrong relationship because they thought it was better than being single.
These people did not fully embrace the power and value of being alone. When you do this, you learn who you really are and what is really important to you. Learn what his values are, what experiences he has and what he does not enjoy, how and where he likes to spend his time.
Learn that it evolves and grows with no lanes to stand on or lines to color. You freely become who you really are and something very important happens while doing this.
You learn what kind of people you want in your life because you understand who will increase your happiness and who will benefit from it. You know what kind of person you would like to share these experiences with. The kind of person who would make you enjoy your favorite restaurant or concert even more than you do when you experience it alone.
But if you don’t take the time to live your life to the fullest in the way you choose, you may find that you are shaping yourself to fit what your partner seems to want. The only way to prevent that from happening is to develop as an individual over time; You must first be happy with yourself.
This is exactly why people think that they will be fine if they directly enter another relationship and repeat the same patterns again. Happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction are an inside job.
Fill up first. Define who you are, what is important to you, and what you value. Learn, grow, change, evolve and become the person you choose to be. Then, and only then, will you learn what type of person will best complement you throughout this life journey.
When they both find their “person”, that’s when the magic happens. But if you don’t take the time to find out who you are, how will you know who they are?
If you are not happy single, you will not be happy in a relationship. Why do some people believe that relationships are the key to happiness?
Before you can settle into a happy life with someone else, you must first be happy with your own life. Your unhappiness will resurface and manifest itself destructively in a relationship if you enter one before you are happy alone. You cannot solve internal problems with external solutions.
What happens is that people expect a relationship to fix everything that is wrong in their lives. Big mistake, it doesn’t work that way. The key to happiness is being comfortable in your own skin. A strong sense of self-worth is at this foundation. The biggest mistake people make is allowing someone else to determine their level of self-satisfaction.
Too many people are emotionally dissatisfied with their lives and try to fill this emotional void with someone through a relationship. This couldn’t be a worse approach. You need to be happy alone and then find someone else to be happy with.
You need to find yourself and resolve any past problems before starting life with someone else. Someone who is unhappy will only only bring this negativity into a relationship.
People don’t realize that if you have a problem inside of you, that problem doesn’t dissipate the moment you start a relationship; it will only rot. You risk unconsciously associating this once personal issue with your partner, which will only produce devastating results.
Stop waiting for someone to come along and make your life worth living. You make your life worth living. Take advantage of the incredible opportunities that life offers you. This is not a punishment, but a gift. You have no obligations and no one to be accountable to. Go out there and do all the things you always wanted to be able to do because there is no one to tie you down or make you feel guilty.
When you are happy, you radiate positive energy. People will be attracted to you. This is how a healthy relationship will thrive.
It values your self-esteem and does not need to be validated by someone else. You create your own worth, not someone else. You are the one who can make you happy. No one else can do this for you. Sure, a relationship can contribute to your personal happiness, but it’s you who gets you there. You have to take care of yourself first before taking care of others.