Have you ever wondered why men pull away in the early stages of dating? Things seem to start off very well. The guy calls or texts you constantly, he tells you that he really likes you; he says that he hasn’t had feelings like this since his last serious relationship, etc. He’s giving you all these signs that he really likes you and then at some point, all of a sudden he seems cold and distant. Why is that?
I’m going to let you in on a little secret now; many men are insecure. One reason a lot of guys say all these nice things and tell you how into you they are is because they’re simply trying to figure out if they really like you; they will tell you that they have strong feelings and then they will see how you react. Are you really excited when they say something like that or do you start to back off? Not all men play these types of games and many men don’t even realize they are doing it, but many men are insecure and trying to get information. They want to know if you like them or not.
The problem is that once a man has the information he’s been looking for, he can start to change. In the early stages of a relationship everyone wants to be liked. People will often put up a facade and try to project a personality of the type of person they think other people would be interested in. Once a man realizes that you really like him, he will stop acting and start being himself. That can be a good thing, but once it happens, the dynamics of the relationship can change, and not always for the better.
Another reason why men pull away in the early stages of dating is because some men just aren’t ready for a serious relationship. If they get the feeling that things are moving too fast, they will start to regress. Other men are just looking to have a good time, and once they get what they want, they are no longer interested.
The real trick is to find someone who really wants a serious relationship, and someone who won’t induce you to play games. If you’re dating a man and things seem to be going great, and he suddenly starts to regress, you need to speak up and say something about it. Confronting a man on this issue can be awkward, but if he’s really interested in you, he’ll want to work things out. If he just ignores your feelings and tells you there’s nothing to worry about, or if he gets angry and starts fighting, he wasn’t the right man for you anyway and it’s best to end the relationship and move on. If that’s the case, at least it happened in the early stages of the relationship, before things got too serious.