The pillar of parenting is telling the child what not to do. – Do not do this. Do not do that. Unfortunately, most of the time; parents do not tell the child what to do. You were indoctrinated and conditioned not to do this or that and now you have difficulty deciding ‘what to do’. In the absence of not knowing ‘what to do’, you can do the following until you know what you want to do.
• Avoid spending time with negative people.
• Avoid running away from your problems. – Face them head-on.
• Avoid lying to yourself. -You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself and be successful. Mr Scott Peck
• Avoid putting your own needs in the background. Nobody can do what you have to do for your needs.
• Avoid trying to be someone you are not.
• Avoid clinging to the past.
• Avoid being afraid of making a mistake. So called ‘errors’ can lead to the solution.
• Avoid punishing yourself for perceived mistakes. They lead to the solution.
• Avoid thinking that you can buy happiness. Bigger houses or cars never make a bigger person.
• Avoid looking exclusively for happiness in others.
• Avoid being inactive.
• Avoid thinking that you are not ready. Preparation is a decision. He decided
• Avoid getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.
• Avoid rejecting new relationships simply because the old ones didn’t work out.
• Avoid competing against anyone.
• Avoid being jealous of others.
• Avoid complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. What goes around comes around. – What you complain and complain about is what comes back.
• Avoid holding grudges. Grudges prevent you from seeing clearly for your best interest.
• Avoid letting others bring you down to their level.
• Avoid doing the same things over and over and expecting different results.
• Avoid dominating beauty in the moment.
• Avoid working to make things perfect. Perfection is in the eye of the beholder. You are not the only viewer.
• Avoid following the path of least resistance. The best fruit is on the highest branch.
• Avoid blaming others for your work. What goes around comes around. – What you blame others is what comes back.
• Avoid being everything to everyone.
• Avoid worrying. Worry is an endless loop. What goes around comes around. Focus on what you want.
• Avoid focusing on what you don’t want. – What goes around comes around. Focus on what you want.
• Focus on TRUST, FAITH, BELIEF moment by moment in all ways always.
• Focus on being thankful for all things big and small – little things add up to big things.
I wish you the best in your journey of deciding ‘what to do’.