What is clear is that if a man is in a position where practically his entire life revolves around his mother and is focused on her needs, he is not going to be empowered and feel in control of his own life. He is likely to feel that he is his mother’s possession and that he has to do what she wants.
This is, of course, assuming he is aware of how he feels and doesn’t shut down. There is a possibility that behaving this way is just normal, which means that he will be unaware of the fact that he is living in the wrong way.
keeping it low
If this is the case, he is likely to do what he can to keep his true feelings at bay, and this may be something that usually happens subconsciously. Therefore, the anger and frustration that you are likely experiencing for being this way will be pushed out of your consciousness.
Without letting go, then, you can do what you can to keep your internal feedback at bay and continue to behave in the same way, even if it doesn’t serve you. The result of this is that feedback that would inform you that you are living in the wrong way will be out of your reach.
a miserable existence
And, because you are out of touch with yourself and not living a life that is in alignment with who you are, it is unlikely that you will live a life worth living. His life is likely to be greatly diminished as most of his life force will be directed towards his mother.
If you have a tendency to avoid both feelings and thoughts that would shed light on what’s happening to you, you could be shocked if you had to face reality. She would soon see how much he neglects her own life and how unsatisfying her life is.
completely powerless
At this point, he could feel completely powerless and unable to do anything with his life. If a man has been aware of how he experiences life for quite some time, he too can be how he feels and sees life.
With this in mind, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother is not going to be an empowered human being. It will not matter that he is an adult as he will not feel strong and capable.
One option
Thus, by how you feel and see your life, you will only have to tolerate what is happening. It will not matter how much pain this is causing you or how miserable your life is, as you will have no choice.
Because of this, a part of him may wish he could go back to the way he was before. Then he wouldn’t realize what’s going on, but at least he’d be comfortable oblivious to what’s going on.
Step back
If you were to talk about your experience with someone, someone who is balanced and supportive, you might end up telling them that you are not helpless. He could be told that he has the power to live his own life and create a life worth living.
Ergo, even if he doesn’t feel this way, this will be the truth. Hearing this, the man might experience a change in his mood and begin to feel hopeful, but he might soon end up sinking again as time goes on.
its reality
It won’t matter if what they tell him is the truth, because as far as he’s concerned, he won’t have any control over his life. However, this will not only be seen as something he believes in, it will be seen as the absolute truth.
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Consequently, the only way his life will change is if his mother changes or if someone comes to save him, for example. Apart from this, he will have no choice but to put up with the miserable life he leads.
What’s going on?
What this probably illustrates is that he has learned to be helpless and so he sees no way out. Most likely, there was a stage in his life where he felt powerless and, since he hasn’t been able to get past this stage, he can’t embrace his inherent power.
During his early years, his mother probably used him to meet some of her unmet adult and childhood needs. This would have meant that most of his own needs would have been ignored and he would have to be there for his mother.
deeply painful
This would have made him suffer immensely, but he would not have been able to do anything about what he was going through. He would have felt powerless and helpless as he was powerless and helpless.
Therefore, these were not “irrational” or “negative” feelings; They were feelings that reflected reality. The only thing she could do to deal with the pain she felt was to disconnect from her feelings.
formative years
Year after year, he would have been helpless and unable to do anything about what he was going through, leading him to believe that he was helpless. As a result of this, now that he has power and is free to live his own life, he will continue to behave in the same way.
In a way, it will be as if you have lived in a prison for many, many years and now that you are free to leave, you will not have the ability to do so. The door will be open and not only will you not be able to go through it, but you will not be able to see it.
Awareness
If a man can relate to this and is ready to turn his life around, he may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.