All of us have both an emotional side and an intellectual side. Many of us allow our emotions to take precedence over our intellect when it comes to dealing with everyday situations and problems. It is important to strike a balance.
Fundamentally, what leads to mental disorders, with the exception of those of genetic origin, are bad relationships with those who are important in our lives.
Ways Bad Relationships Can Arise
Bad relationships can stem from your friendships, your family, your marriage, or your involvement in groups or organizations that reflect your values and philosophy. If your role in these relationships is broken, it can easily affect you emotionally. At that time, you will need emotional support. Ideally, if you have it before any of these events occur, you can handle them much more easily.
sources of emotional support
Emotional support should come from a friend or family member who loves and respects you unconditionally, someone who will listen to you; give you words of encouragement; help you sort your options; and then help you take the right steps toward a solution.
Anyone who gives you emotional support will not argue with you or criticize you. If you find them arguing with you, criticizing them, get them out of your life. Healthy conversations and discussions can be valuable, but arguments or criticism are not. Don’t get involved in this.
Emotional support can strengthen your resolve to take the right steps to find a solution. It can result in ending a marriage, ending a friendship, or parting ways with an organization. When these actions take you in a different direction, you will gain new and more satisfying experiences.
Build on your strengths
If you don’t have this emotional support at a certain time, then you have to look within and develop your strengths. If religion is important to you, start attending church regularly and study and absorb religious materials. Start learning a new subject or subjects that you had an initial interest in but never pursued. However, join a new organization that more specifically reflects your values and philosophy.
You need an Action Plan
This means that without immediate emotional support, a plan of action is needed, and usually by carrying out your plans, you will find people you can connect with, and you will have even more to offer those in your new relationships.
Not having this support when you are experiencing a crisis, loss of a loved one, or financial hardship can be devastating, but it is survivable. And beyond surviving, you may even experience personal growth and development that you never imagined.