If you’re looking to get your ex back or fix your relationship but don’t know exactly what to do, you’ve come to the right place. When a relationship breaks down, or is about to sink into the rocks, more often than not, the deterioration has crept slowly over several days, weeks, months, sometimes years. It requires honesty and guts, not only with oneself to keep the relationship alive, but also with others. Life is dynamic, things happen that you can’t always control, but one thing you can always control is what you DO with the situation.
Let’s say you found out that your partner is cheating on you. What are you going to do to get your ex back? Are you going to start begging and offering favors to keep your relationship going? Are you going to ignore the fact that there is a situation and go on with your life as if you knew nothing about it? Are you going to leave home with a goodbye note? Or are you going to take it and put all the cards on the table?
Let’s examine the various scenarios. You are begging for consideration and doing everything you can to please your partner. If you are a woman, you will buy her a tie in her favorite color, then a sweater, you will cook her favorite dish; if you are a man, you will buy her flowers, you will surprise her with her favorite perfume, a pair of earrings, tickets to the movies so that she can go with the children. You are willing to do everything your partner wants even if it bores you, you will not say a word, you will simply accept any of the whims that they throw at you. Well let me tell you one thing. One moment, one day, you’ll get fed up and since you never said a word, you won’t be able to speak either. And eventually you will stop smoking because you will not feel comfortable with your partner and with yourself. Life will be miserable. Is that real?
What about the other scenario of neglecting the situation like you don’t know anything about it? Well, you’re moving through dangerous waters. Very incongruous situations can arise just because your partner thinks they are still keeping the affair from you. What if your partner decides to leave and forget about you?
If upon learning of the situation, you decide to pack your things and leave with no words other than a note, I am sure you will miss the explanation and reflect all your life on how and why this happened. You will be resentful at best and this may stain your next relationship.
So what do you do to get your ex back? It is best to bring it up, whatever the cost. However, there is a way to do it that will eventually clear the matter up forever. Don’t make your partner wrong. Think about it. If this happened, there must be a reason why your partner had to go elsewhere to have another relationship. What was yours missing? So stay calm and listen to your partner and the reasons why this unfortunate situation occurred. Then discuss what was missing in your relationship that created the need for your partner to find another venue for an exchange.
If you do this sanely, you and your partner will be able to resolve your relationship and continue to create it anew or end it forever, but on good terms, because the two of you have become strangers and you have nothing more to share and create together. . Either way, the relationship will smooth out and life can take its course for both of you.