Covert narcissists are the most cunning, scheming and hard to spot personalities. They are gifted chameleons, socially adept and capable of expressing convincing pseudo empathy. Most people are deceived and disarmed by the covert narcissist.
Here are some examples of how they work:
1. Covert narcissists use secrecy and secrecy to control your emotions and weaken you emotionally and psychologically.
2. Covert narcissists demean and humiliate you when you are most vulnerable.
3. Covert narcissists convince others that they are good people who can be trusted and deserve respect.
4. The Undercover is obsessed with ultimate control over others, especially those closest to him or her.
5. Covert narcissists constantly plot and plan how to manipulate and exploit their competitors.
Learn to recognize the covert narcissist by studying their hidden traits, baits, and traps. They play the “good person” or “martyr” roles to the fullest. They’re like good method actors. If you don’t recognize them at first, don’t blame yourself. They are so intelligent and suave with their psychological camouflage that they are very difficult to detect.
Pay close attention to the intuitive signals you are receiving and do not dismiss them as irrational or insignificant. Embrace these ideas.
Develop a regular practice of psychological, emotional and mental grounding. This includes a form of meditation, prayer, affirmations, quiet time with nature, and other forms of activity that are calming and restorative. Part of this practice is instilling a sense of firm respect for your personal psychological boundaries. As you go through each day, develop a deep appreciation for your unique, authentic, and original self.
An essential part of the healing and restoration process is activating the parasympathetic nervous system. Here we recover, withdraw into peace and calm, and restore our sense of safety and psychological grounding. One of the best ways to get into the parasympathetic is through acupuncture. This ancient Chinese medical practice treats the patient to balance all systems in the body, including calming and balancing the nervous system. Very often, if you have lived through and tolerated abuse from a narcissistic personality, your body and mind are in a fight or flight state. Acupuncture is a powerful method of helping the patient shift into rest, rest, and recovery mode.
Another path to the parasympathetic is to immerse ourselves in beauty in all its miraculous forms. Whether it’s nature and our immersion in its beauty and mystery or finding an art form we love, the experience of beauty places us at the center of the parasympathetic nervous system. Here we feel at home and safe.
You are on the path to life healing. Always remember and value who you are as a unique individual. Pay close attention to your intuition: our protector, guide, and deep source of perpetual inspiration and creativity.