Unlike the love button for women, or the penis for men, anal stimulation can be a bit hit and miss in the pleasure department. Too fast? Everything tightens. Too dry? Cuts and tears are likely. Too much movement? In fact, it can be a bit nauseating. Whether you’re a man or a woman, if you can feel yourself bursting with anal intercourse but can’t reach that trigger, we have 7 tricks you can use to get better orgasms with anal toys.
- Use an anal douche beforehand – Nothing will be comfortable, be it human or adult toy, unless it is clean and thoroughly groomed. Don’t use enemas, though: they’re a medical procedure and too invasive to play with regularly.
- Be sure to use specific toys for anal sex. – Sex toys that are made for anal play often have a flared end to prevent loss and are made of non-porous material so they can be boiled and thoroughly sanitized.
- ALWAYS use lubricant! – While your normal bits will happily take care of their own lubrication, your anus isn’t always so helpful. You should always use lubricant for anal play; saliva is usually insufficient. Use a specific anal lubricant or a silicone lubricant if you are using plastic or rubber toys, but you will need to use a water-based lubricant with silicone toys.
- Look for real anal sex toys – Cold and too soft anal toys can be unpleasant for some people: try a real touch toy made of Cyberskin or silicone.
- Try a butt plug – While the sensation of movement inside the back room may be a bit over the top for the first time, the gentle presence and stimulation of a butt plug can be a great introduction to anal play and also anal intercourse in general.
- enter vibration – Both guys and girls can get pretty horny and heavy on a vibrating anal toy, if used correctly! Don’t think of vibrating anal toys as something only “advanced” users should try; the better your initial encounters with anal sex toys feel, the more likely you are to want to try again.
- Skip to anal beads – Unlike vibrating toys, anal beads are a sex toy for those who want to leave the basics behind. They are extracted, either slowly or quickly, just before reaching orgasm or while you come. However, if you’re still training with anal sex toys, the motion may cause you to clench… hurt, tear, and then give up anal play forever. Save them for later!