“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes, courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day that says,” I’ll try again tomorrow. ”
~ Mary Anne Radmacher
MY ESSENTIAL ACTION STEPS
As I struggled and struggled with my pain and loss, I kept a journal. THE FOLLOWING EXTRACTS ARE FROM MY JOURNAL: 15 STEPS THAT HELPED ME UNDERSTAND AND CONQUER MY PAIN. Writing in my journal helped me find a new purpose and more peace and joy. They were personalized healing pep talks for me and can also be for you:
1-MAKE A CONSCIOUS EFFORT TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE FLORAL PETALS OF RENEWAL AND RENAISSANCE
I understand that my renewal and rebirth begins and ends with me. How can I start now? How I do it is a personal matter, but it is vital to finding happiness, new peace and joy. The more diligently I do it, with consistency and sincere effort, the greater the possibility of personal and God-inspired inspiration. I will deeply reflect on all the steps I could take to renew hope and find rebirth in a fuller life.
2-COUNT MY GRATEFUL MOMENTS
I will be specific. Some blessings will be great and some will be small. As I count my blessings, I am amazed at how many things I am grateful for. I will count my blessings one by one.
Realizing what I am grateful for will give me strength in times of discouragement. Acting in accordance with my intentions to be grateful can bring great blessings. I will practice gratitude every day to foster gratitude in my life. Today I will write at least five things in my journal that I am grateful for today and my wonderful life experiences.
3-THE PAIN NEVER ENDS
Grief is a passage of time, not a place to stay. However, you may never fully heal and forget your pain completely. The duel can continue. Reconciling your pain condition brings the pain you experience into harmony. This leads to healing. Do your best to turn sixteen every moment of each day to overcome loss, pain, and sadness.
4-The duel IS THE PRICE OF LIVING THE CIRCUMSTANCES OF LIFE.
“The journey between what once was and what is now becoming is where the dance of life really takes place.”
~ Barbara De Angelis
When my pain engulfed me, my life was permanently altered. Pain is not a lack of faith or a sign of weakness. What I do with my pain is only my choice. Understanding my pain and what I can do to heal helps me begin my healing journey to a healthier and happier place in my life. I will continue to take steps to understand and reconcile my complex pain. I will start today.
Grief, sadness, and grief provide new opportunities to learn about yourself. Could you reflect: while I allow myself to cry and give time to feel sorry for myself, my pain continues? Reconciliation and acceptance make my pain flare up less often. I will try to think of the opportunity I have as “the new me.” I will believe in my potential happiness. It is critical that I make the most of the challenges in my life. Even for those of us who have been disabled, more peace, joy, and a richer and more fulfilling life are possible. I will fill my life with happy moments.
6-RE-EVALUATE MY PERSPECTIVE
Try to think: I will assess what has changed and explore what is still possible for me after my life-changing event. I will begin by acknowledging that some of the changes that have occurred in my life as a result of my experiences will likely be permanent. I will reflect on the actions I can take over the next week that will move me toward greater happiness and peace. I will acknowledge the possibility that my new path will reveal itself as I move forward.
7-FIND A PARTNER FOR THE DUEL
Trying to get over my pain will only hinder or slow down my progress and may even cause me to become severely depressed due to loneliness and isolation. It is essential that I seek the support of others and find ways to express my needs. Joan is my ever-present companion. Perhaps other relationships are essential to my well-being and happiness. Sometimes all I need to do is ask. But I must ask questions like: “I need you to spend time with me and here are my needs …” Sometimes I will cry with someone, sometimes it can be more healing than crying alone. Great comfort and peace, even hope, can come to those who know they have someone to turn to in times of need, need, and deep pain.
8-I’M NOT ALONE
Due to my deep pain, it can be extremely difficult for me to believe that at this moment there can be hope, joy and peace in my life. As I go through this time of pain in my life, I will be aware that while my journey of pain is unique, I will be comforted by the hope and wisdom of those who have walked the path of pain before me. I will model literally thousands of people who have reason to grieve and who have overcome obstacles to give me hope. I am not alone. I will think about the ways in which your actions have been examples to me. I will search the Internet for stories of how others have successfully overcome their difficult challenges. Let these examples empower me.
9-HUG EVERY POSITIVE MOMENT
I will seize every positive moment and every opportunity, and by doing so, I will be able to better find healing, harmony, hope, peace, and the joy of living. Peace and joy go together. I will not allow pain to take away my faith in God, my love for life and, most importantly, my hope. I will not be lazy; I will be proactive each day in seeking each hopeful and beneficial moment of each possibility of inner peace. Every day I will look for positive moments that I can embrace or include in my activities.
10-TURN INWARD AND BE COMPASSIONATE
Right now, figuring out how to turn inward and be compassionate to myself is perhaps one of my most important needs. Accepting my feelings of loss is essential to my survival and my future happiness. The pain of my circumstance that changed my life will never completely go away. Learning to reconcile my life after a time of loss requires self-nourishment and continuous loving care that allows me to overcome my pain. I will consider ways to nurture the feeling in my heart today.
11-RECONNECT WITH MY PASSIONS
Due to agony and anguish, I find myself temporarily withdrawing from people, places, or things that I used to enjoy. I should consider all the people, places, or things that have brought me the most joy and satisfaction in my life. How many of these people, places, or things can still be a part of my life now? Make a plan. Schedule time each day to get involved in something, or with someone, that you have previously enjoyed. Give me the gift of something to look forward to each day. I will consider the ones that resonate the most with me and will support my healing. I will embrace the solutions that can support my healing. I will act today and always.
13-ACCEPT THE CHALLENGE TO OVERCOME YOUR DUEL
Metaphorically, pain can be like a hailstorm. It is an unusual and unexpected event. It can cause serious damage. Sadness and pain often start small, but like hail, your pain can suddenly grow from a raindrop to the size of a pea to the size of a golf ball, even a hard ball, traveling 90 miles per hour. Like hail that causes approximately $ 1 billion in damage per year to property and crops, my terrible pain has damaged my life. I accept the challenge to overcome the hail of pain in my life. The hail also melts my pain and my pain.
14-UNDERSTAND THE POWER OF MY PAIN
The severe pain has caused me to experience deep pain. I am learning that to reconcile my pain I must go through my pain. I can’t help the pain, hoping it will go away. All the words spoken and all the words written cannot take away the pain. One of the best ways to understand the pain that has entered my life is to express outwardly what I feel inside. Pain is a feeling in my heart. I can’t instantly get over it or avoid it. The forces of pain force me to deal with my pain. The harsh reality is that a permanent change has occurred in my life. Now I must deal with a new me and different circumstances. To move to a happier and fuller life, I must understand my pain. Once I clearly understand my unique personal pain, I will be able to heal.
15-DEFINE MY INTENTIONS TO HEAL
Healing my pain is all-encompassing. It is a commitment to cause a desired consequence. In my case, it requires my concentration, all my attention to my deep pain in such a way that it produces and introduces pieces of happiness and hope back into my life. I must take steps to make this happen over and over again, day by day. I can’t solve my pain in one go. Healing requires active actions. Passive hope is not a meaningful option. By defining my intentions, I truly commit myself unconditionally to overcome my pain.