My sister has been self-absorbed all her life. She takes no responsibility for her hateful actions and constantly blames others for her actions. Our mother had a stroke in 2006. She refused to take care of our mother until now. My uncles take care of our mother because I am also working. I can’t help but resent her for her lack of caring and caring personality. She even abandons her own children for her selfish satisfaction.
Since there are only two of us, basically, it is always me who takes care of our family despite having a family of my own. I can’t seem to understand my sister’s hatred towards me and the lies she has told to scam other people. She wants to gain sympathy from other people by blaming me. Last year she almost died of suffocation because the child in her womb died three days ago and she did nothing to solve the problem. My family called me and asked what I could do to help with her seemingly unstoppable bleeding. The first reaction was anger because she didn’t take care of her even though she was pregnant. Then I gave her money for her checkup. The result of her ultrasound examination showed that her bleeding was caused by a failed miscarriage. She needed to undergo an operation to have the dead fetus in her womb or else she might die due to hemorrhage.
Fortunately, he survived without undergoing an operation. The baby was removed from her uterus through an induction procedure. When she left the hospital, I advised her to be careful and consider the consequences of his actions. Since she and her husband did not get along, she left her children in the care of her husband and found work as a waitress at a barbecue. Just a month later, she became pregnant by her co-worker, a very young 23-year-old man when she was already 37 years old. I swore I wouldn’t help her anymore because I can’t tolerate such irresponsible behavior.
I really don’t know what’s wrong with her. Now her tummy is already 8 months old. She asks me for money for her ultrasound and medical attention. Her so-called boyfriend left her a month ago. She is now left alone with the burden of raising the baby and the possibility of facing adultery charges from her legal husband.
Am I to blame for your circumstance?
When she needs me, I am always there for her. But she won’t listen to her family. She thinks her family is bad and an obstacle to her happiness. Now, I am faced with a bigger problem: where to get money for the delivery of it next month. She doesn’t have a single penny ready. Her co-workers thought I’m a bad sister when in fact she’s the one. She never appreciates the nice things you do to her. She doesn’t even know how to say thank you for your efforts.
He doesn’t do anything productive in his life. She doesn’t care about her children. She already has 3 children. Now that she is pregnant, she would be 4. She makes excuses and blames others for her situation. She blames me for not having a tubal ligation so she won’t be pregnant anymore. She acts like a victim and takes no responsibility for causing her situation. She sees me as a manipulative and abusive sister even though she is the other way around. She even threatens me to end everything because there is nothing left to live for.
I let him make his own decisions. I never told him what to do. But many times, I explained to her what her choices could lead to. But now I realized that she needs a slap in the face for acting like a fool and doing something completely stupid that will hurt others, especially her children and herself. She needs to shake herself up a bit to come back to reality.
I can’t always be there for her because I also have children of my own. But one thing is for sure, she can count on me in times of need.