It’s easy to attract a guy physically: put on a sexy dress, push your chest out, walk with your hips swaying sexually, pout your lips seductively, flip your hair back and wave your long lashes shyly at him, and that’s it. everything you need to conquer it. But that’s only if you want him to stay one night. The reality is that most women want something deeper than a physical connection. It’s natural for guys to go superficial, but how to make them appreciate what’s inside is a real challenge. Here are some ways that you can make your boyfriend feel emotionally attracted to you and how you can keep it that way.
Sweet things will not work for men.
As a woman, you are romantically stimulated by the sweetened professions of love and affection. For men, these are simply stolen words from a romantic comedy that they have not seen and have no plans to ever see. If you plan to give him a long speech about how much you enjoy spending time with him and how you would like to be with him forever, you are not causing any emotion in him. Instead, minimize the use of overly sweet words. It is a language that you can teach a boy to speak, but not by speaking it yourself.
Play your game well.
Your miniskirts will physically hook a guy, but your sweaty shirts from playing an active game of ping pong with him will really steal his heart. How? Boys feel an emotional bond with their male friends because of their commonalities. There is so much connection that you can continue during a game of ping-pong (or any other sport or game you enjoy). A guy sees your playful side and will immediately see beyond your physical attributes. When you participate in a game or sport with a boy, you bring out his competitive side, which you can easily tame with your charm. You can also make a guy feel needy by asking him to show you how.
Never underestimate the power of humor and fun.
A girl can be stylish and fun at the same time. There is nothing cuter than a girl who can make a guy laugh naturally and without trying too hard. When people laugh, their levels of serotonin (the happy hormone) skyrocket. Higher serotonin levels make people more loving and romantic. Add a lighter side to the relationship, and your boyfriend will be more hooked on you before you know it.
Turn those little actions into big ones.
As couples walk side by side, watch as, almost unknowingly, one hand reaches out to meet the other. These small actions may seem pointless, but this means a great emotional connection between you and your partner. It means that your physical ties are no longer limited to romping around the bedroom, you now feel comfortable letting the world know that you are a couple.
He secretly loves surprises, even when he says no.
How do you take down a guy when you least expect it? Surprise him. Buy him a shift at his favorite store, but get him that CD he’s been wanting to buy for himself. Cook a 3-course dinner for him and slip an “anything you want for dessert” coupon along with it. Any pleasant surprise, as long as it is not too dramatic, too romantic, and too heavy will suffice.
Listen to what he tells you about his mother (or ex).
Big boys are attached to their mothers. In fact, when you imagine an ideal woman, she would have many characteristics that her mother actually has. For example, your guy casually tells you during a conversation, “My mom makes the best strawberry cheesecake.” He is telling you “subtly” that he would like you to be able to bake a little for him too. It’s the same with exes. Although it’s a mutual rule not to talk about your exes, conversations about them can’t always be avoided. “She always made me fresh juice in the morning.” While you would hate the idea of becoming her ex, you already have the hint that she used to do something that he enjoyed. So instead of making him fresh juice, make him a great breakfast too.
Boost your morale but do it in moderation.
Lastly, be generous with compliments as they build a man’s self-esteem. If you are successful in doing so, you will be able to establish a significant emotional attraction with him. However, do this in moderation or else it may sound too condescending.