You may not realize it, but there are certain things a woman should ask a man to set the pace, boundaries, and direction of a relationship. Women, who don’t ask the right questions, always end up entangled in a relationship.
A woman, who gets carried away, usually finds that a man does what she wants, when she wants, without much consideration of her needs or desires.
But that’s because she never clarified or asked, so he thinks that everything is fine and that she is happy, because she is not saying the opposite; and he goes after her own wishes. This would mean that men, who want to use women, end up doing so; and men who want to take women for granted, end up doing it, etc…
That is why it is extremely important to ask the right questions from the beginning, so as not to fall into a vicious circle in which a man uses you as a doormat. Also, the questions you ask help direct him to know what exactly you want and help a man give you what you want.
Here are the 25 questions every woman should ask a man:
1. What are your personal goals?- You MUST know what he wants to do outside of a relationship, because he is going to want to do it. Most women get in the way of a man’s personal goals, because they want all of her goals to involve her. Accept that not all of his goals involve you, as they were formed before you…and some just won’t involve you after all.
two. How was your childhood?– Knowing a man’s childhood is like being given a key to understand everything he is, because it will explain why he is the way he is. This is something that every woman should know from top to bottom.
3. What are your insecurities? – These little devils will appear out of nowhere if you don’t ask and don’t get clarification. When they come up, they usually ruin and destroy everything good, so it’s something you MUST discuss and figure out early on, so you know how to handle it or know it’s just insecurity when it comes up.
Four. What professional career interests you? – This is a direction that every woman should take into account, because it could imply that he moves, or has to spend a lot of time at work, etc.
5. What do you expect from a relationship? – Not everyone’s idea of a relationship is the same. It’s good to clear this up early on and find out what a relationship really is for him.
6. What do you want from life? – This encompasses everything you hope to achieve in life, whether that includes your career, a family, financial success, etc… in essence, it’s all the major goals you have for yourself until you die.
7. What can’t you bear? – Imagine if you spent all your time doing everything he hates, because he never tells you? That’s the way 99.9% of relationships are, and that’s why they fail, because women never really know what they’re doing wrong, and they never really find out what their man really can’t stand. It’s good to know your limits here.
8. You want to have children? – Some couples never talk about this, so when one of the partners declares that they would like to have children, they are shocked and torn when they realize that their partner never did. If you want children, and even if you don’t, you should ask her if that’s something she’s looking forward to or not.
9. How were your past relationships? – A person’s past relationship can show you patterns in their personality. It’s also good to know, to find out if a man hasn’t moved on yet, if he has baggage, if he’s the cheating type, etc., which is not something you want to find out later.
10 What attracts you to women? – A general question that goes beyond the superficial. Everyone has their unique idea of an ideal partner; it is good to know what is really ideal and attractive for a man in the first place.
eleven What expectations do you have of yourself? – A man’s expectations of himself will rub off on everyone else he meets, if they don’t conform to those expectations; but more importantly, a man’s expectations of himself can determine his reactions and actions toward many things.
12 What are your views on spirituality? – Some people care about religion, others don’t. However, it is important to find out if your partner cares, where they stand on it, and if they can accept you into their life with the beliefs they hold.
13 What do you expect from a partner? – What does he want from you? What does he need? What things are the most important to him in a woman? What kinds of things is he looking for from his partner?
14 Describe your family and friends? – Who are they, what are they about, how does the family work, what kind of relationships are there, etc…? All of this shaped who he is today, and may shape his ideas about the kind of relationship he wants. He knows his family and friends.
fifteen. What do you think about marriage and commitment? – We are coming to an era where people are equally inclined between marriages and dating. Some believe that it is better to go out and stay in a long-term relationship without marriage, because they believe that things are fine the way they are. Others believe that marriage is the way. Some men, on the other hand, only believe in short-term relationships. It’s good to know where you stand on the issue, so you can clarify where you stand.
sixteen. What is your sexual history? – It is good to know what the couple’s sexual history was, for obvious security reasons (STDs); but also to understand how your partner views sexuality and intimacy to begin with.
17 What role does a woman play in a relationship? – Find out what purpose he thinks you would fulfill in a relationship with him. For example, some men think that a woman should not work, do you think that should be her role?
18 What is your financial situation? – Regardless of whether you are financially independent or not, you should know this. Finances support the way of life of a person, so you must know at a general level the financial situation of him; because financial problems and even success can create a lot of stress or problems for a man.
19 What is your position on intimacy and sex? – When do you think it is right to start intimacy? What kind of fantasies or desires do you have in that area? That waits?
twenty What is loyalty to you? – Does he believe in monogamy? What is his idea of loyalty? What kind of loyalty does he expect?
twenty-one How do you define love? – Some men may not believe in it, others may think it’s the only way. Some may say it is conditional, others say it is unconditional. It’s good to know how a man defines love, because that sets the emotional pace of the relationship.
22 What are your worst life experiences? – Knowing where a man came from and how he got over it can show you where he plans to go in the future. Also, there could have been life changing events for him, traumatic events, etc… that he should be aware of, because now they can affect him depending on the severity.
23 What are your successes? – What are your best experiences, what have you achieved? These are things he has worked on and they can show you where his interests lie, but also HOW he approaches things and how he wins.
24 What are your worst fears? – For some, it could be commitment; for others it could be bankruptcy. You need to know what kinds of things are holding him back or scaring him… because they can get in the way of everything if they come up or get activated. Remember that they are your WORST fears.
25 What do you want to know about me? – Sometimes a man never asks things, because he doesn’t feel that the floor is open to ask. Let him know that he can ask you anything and he is open to his questions without judging or criticizing the things he is asking. This question is important to let a man know that he CAN know you and CAN know the things he wants, and there definitely are things he wants to know.
